Thursday, October 16, 2014

Rump Arounds Review + Giveaway!

I received the Rump Arounds pocket diaper for review. All opinions are my own and I was not compensated for this post, though I received the mentioned product for free in exchange for this review.

 The Rump Arounds pocket diaper is a one size diaper with a 4 rise snap setting allowing you to get an extra small, small, medium and large fit.
This diaper fits babies from 6.5 pounds up to about 40 pounds! There are four snaps per wing and two cross over snaps. This helps with size adjustment and prevents the wings from drooping. The diaper has a double gusset barrier protection which is great at holding messes in.  The soft inner is gentle against babies skin while keeping your baby dry.

I received the Orange Tiger Minky in snaps for my review. The print is super adorable and extremely soft. The diaper came with a three layer 100% bamboo insert. It worked well on it's own during normal wear and shorter naps. For long naps, overnight or during shopping trips, I would definitely add a booster to ensure you get enough absorbency. The pocket opening has stretchy elastic which is nice because you don't have to worry about any of the mess getting back into the insert like you have with some diapers. 

Having the four snaps and two crossover snaps is great for getting a nice custom fit. It also fixed the issue of the wings drooping that you can get with some diapers that only have one or two snaps. The diaper also has a great "snap wrap" feature that allows you to roll the diaper up like you can with a disposable and snap it closed until it's ready for the wash. This is helpful for when you're out and about. It gives you plenty of room in your wet bag for more dirty diapers and if you have a messy diaper, it keeps the mess contained so it doesn't get everywhere!

I got a really nice fit on my 5 month old who is about 22 pounds! There is plenty of room for growth as well, so it doesn't look like he'll outgrow this diaper quickly. As far as pocket diapers go, not only is the fit really nice but it's not super bulky and fits well under his clothing. 

Rump Arounds has several different types of diapers to choose from along with trainers, wet bags, diaper pails and changing pads. Along with inserts, prefolds, mystery bundles and much  more. You can purchase the diaper I reviewed  or another product from their website-

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Friday, August 22, 2014

Which Comes First- Weaning or Potty Training?!

I'm a busy stay at home mom of two boys, so I don't get very much free time and when I do, it's usually taken up by taking a quick shower. So I don't really read too many blogs or follow very many, just a few favorites. Dirty Diaper Laundry is one I enjoy because I've learned a lot about diapers and I feel I can really connect with a lot of her posts. Last year she wrote two posts I really connected with and I actually cried a little bit reading them. She wrote about her son turning two and how he was still nursing. She also wrote about which would come first- weaning or potty training. (You can read them here and here.) I thought back when I first read them that they really spoke to me, but now I'm finding I can relate to them even more. As I mentioned in a previous post, we have been working on potty training. However, C just isn't all that interested and I really don't want to push him if he's not ready. We purposely waited until after his brother was born to even try because becoming a big brother was going to be a big enough change as it was. So now I'm just kind of passive about the potty training thing. Some days he chooses to wear his "big boy" underwear but some days, he's just not interested. We'll get there eventually, today just isn't the day. I have to remember that every kid is different and he'll get the hang of it in his own time. I just wish others would see things this way and stop bugging me about getting him out of diapers. Trust me, I want him potty trained more than anyone else. I'm just really over all the diaper laundry I've been doing lately, so having one in diapers would be a huge relief. We'll get there though, I just wish other people would trust that he'll do it in his own time and that the answer is not to push him until he's ready.

Now, not only do I get a hard time about C not being potty trained, I also get a hard time about him still nursing. As he was nearing 2 years old, I would get questions about weaning him. When I found out I was pregnant with Baby C those questions only came more frequently and were even more annoying than before. It was like everyone thought I was strange for wanting to tandem nurse. Here's the thing, I make plenty of milk to nurse both of my boys without any issue. Baby C has been gaining weight exactly like his brother did when he was a baby. I'm not worried about the baby not getting enough milk. In fact, I have designated the left side to the baby and the right side to C. This makes things easier for me. First, this means both breasts are being emptied so that helps me avoid plugged ducts and mastitis. I had a terrible time with both when C was a baby. I even ended up with mastitis when Baby C was just a month or so old. Tandem nursing has been a wonderful experience so far. Sure it has it's days where I just want to quit and just have my one baby to nurse, but the good days trump the bad days.

It's just so extremely frustrating to me when people tell me I need to wean my toddler. There are still plenty of benefits to him nursing. Not only for him, but for me as well. It always baffles me when others are so judgmental of full term nursing mothers. If it's "not for you" fine, wean your baby at one. However, if another mother is comfortable nursing her baby past 1,2 or 3, you should have nothing to say to her. Just be supportive and if you can't be that, just don't say a word. It's hard. It's so hard being a full term nursing mother when so many people are giving you the stink eye and making comments behind your back. I've always set goals for myself. I set the goal of 6 months, then a year and finally 2 years. We didn't have the easiest nursing relationship in the beginning, but it definitely got easier and I loved it more and more. I never set a goal past 2 years, because at this point, it's all up to him if he continues or if he stops. From the looks of it, he's not going to be stopping before he turns 3. Insert big, huge, giant *gasp* from those who judge. You heard read it correctly. I will not be weaning my toddler before he turns 3. He's such a picky eater when he eats solids, that I'm extremely thankful that he still nurses. 

Since he does eat solids, nursing him is much different than nursing Baby C. I tend to shy away from nursing in public unless he absolutely needs it. This is because he can and does eat solid food, he doesn't depend on nursing like Baby C does. However, if he's really having hard time and needs the comfort or if he gets hurt, I have no issues nursing him wherever. Just yesterday we went to eat lunch and the poor little dude just has not been feeling the best lately. He came up and sat on my lap and asked to nurse. I let him because there is nothing more pathetic than a sick child. When we're at home, it's completely different. I'll nurse him as much as he wants to nurse. I usually offer him something to eat before and after to make sure he's getting full enough, but if he declines, I'm okay with nursing. The most important thing is that he's healthy and happy.

Back to tandem nursing for a moment. I have to say that I feel like it's helped ease C into the transition of being a big brother. While he doesn't always want to nurse at the same time as the baby and often says "Daddy, take baby please!" he knows that if the baby is nursing, he either has to wait, or join. I feel it's been a wonderful bonding experience and has been keeping the three of us close. Bonding is one of the biggest rewards of nursing and I wouldn't trade it for anything. When we first brought the baby home, C didn't want anything to do with him. He would pretend he didn't exist and hated the attention the baby got. Now he doesn't mind giving the baby kisses or tickling his feet.

He used to get extremely upset if Baby C would touch him at all during nursing and last night I caught him trying to hold the baby's hand. So tandem nursing has definitely been working in our favor. I will say that it's entirely up to you and your comfort level if you're wiling to tandem nurse or not. It's not for everyone and that's alright! You do what works best for your family and your little ones. The same goes for full term nursing. If you're not comfortable nursing past 2, then that's fine. Like I said though, try not to judge those of us who want to let our little ones nurse until they are ready to wean themselves. It's hard enough being a mom as it is, we don't need added stress from fellow mothers.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Happy World Breastfeeding Week Friends!

It's World Breastfeeding Week so I'm going to focus this week on breastfeeding, of course. I wrote last year about supporting breastfeeding mothers. In the post I talked about how my biggest supporter is and has always been my husband. Even now with tandem nursing, my husband is still my biggest supporter. On the nights that my toddler wakes up to nurse more often than my 2 month old, I really feel like weaning him. I just feel way too over touched and the feeling makes me want to pull my hair out. Those are the rough nights and they're not that often, but I still have them. The rest of the time is fine. I still enjoy the bond that nursing my toddler gives us. It's a great way to calm the both of us down and just snuggle. My husband supports whatever decision I make. He often tells me, "It's your body, your boobs. You're the one nursing them. So in the end, it's always up to you." It's so important for a breastfeeding mom to have that support. This is why I love World Breastfeeding Week so much. I want other moms out there to know that they have support. If you don't have support from friends, family or people close to you, there are always groups online that will offer you support and words of encouragement. 

Like I said, I love WBW and to me it's all about celebrating our bodies and the fact that they can nourish our babies. To me it's also all about supporting each other. Breastfeeding doesn't come easy to every mom and there are those who have had a really hard time but pushed through because she wanted to do it for her baby. There are those moms (like me with my first son) who just wanted to give up because it was so rough. Do I feel like I'm a better mom than anyone who didn't breastfeed? No. I just did what I knew was best for my babies. If I'm honest that's not really the first reason I decided chose to breastfeed. Here's the thing, I'm cheap. I hate spending money if I don't have to. I'm always finding ways to save money and I like being frugal. This is part of the reason I chose to cloth diaper. So when it came to breastfeeding vs formula feeding I looked at the cost. Formula is so freakin' expensive, that's just one cost I couldn't justify. I mean, my boobs work and they work really well to feed my babies, so I'm going to use them. They grew to a ridiculous size while I was pregnant with my first son and I wanted to put that to good use! Another reason I wanted to breastfeed was because I'm kind of lazy. The last thing I want to do in the middle of the night is trip over toys on my way to the kitchen to attempt to fix a bottle of formula while I'm half asleep, probably spilling most of it on the counter. That's just too much work for me. I like just being able to roll over, open my nursing tank top, nurse my baby and fall back to sleep snuggling. Which is also why I like to bedshare. It just makes everything so much easier.

I don't like seeing those who don't breastfeed getting offended or hurt by WBW. We're supposed to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. I advocate for breastfeeding because it's a passion of mine. Maybe one of my nursing photos I post online will help a mom feel more comfortable when some can make nursing mothers feel ashamed. I often see posts where people say that breastfeeding is an "intimate" moment that should only be shared between mom and baby. I don't believe that. The more we're open about nursing (in public or posting our beautiful nursing photos) the closer we are to normalizing it so we don't hear stories about a nursing mom being kicked out of "such and such" store for nursing her baby. I feel like the more I talk about it and the more I spread the correct information, the more I can help struggling moms who are about to give up. Some mothers are made to believe they're bodies are failing them. If you're baby is gaining wait, having enough wet diapers and bowel movements, you don't need to supplement. So I don't post my nursing photos or talk about breastfeeding because I feel like I'm better than anyone else. I just wish other moms could see it that way. 

Support is key in breastfeeding. Hearing other nursing mom's success stories and struggles that they pushed through to make it to their breastfeeding goal might just help another mom push through her own struggles and give her the boost she needed. My good friend told me about her horror nursing story when I was struggling with nursing my oldest. I was so close to quitting. I would tense up every single time he went to latch. My nipple was bruised and both bled at one point or another. They hurt so freakin' bad I just wanted to cry and I did cry. I would stand in the shower wondering how I was going to get through this. It wasn't until my nursing toddler went to the dentist at 2 that I found out he had a tongue tie and that's why nursing was so painful. Nursing should not be that painful. Had I gone to a lactation consultant (like I wish I would have) I would have known much sooner that he had a tongue tie and could have gotten it taken care of to make nursing him a much less horrible experience. Although, I still did enjoy the bonding we had and wouldn't trade that for the world!
At the end of the day, just own it. Own your decision on how you chose to feed your baby and nobody will be able to make you feel one way or another. I chose to breastfeed my babies and I couldn't be happier with my decision.

Oh and nurse on milky mamas! I support each and every one of you and hope you get the support and love you need to meet your breastfeeding goal.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Summer To Do List!

Most people (I assume) have a bucket list- a list of things they want to do before they die. I don't really have mine written down, but there are quite a few things I have in mind that I'd love to do before I croak. In fact, my husband and I plan to do a lot of traveling once our kids are older and out of the house. Well, my friend over at TheMamaBomb did a kind of spin off of a bucket list. She's been doing a summer bucket list. I thought this was such a wonderful idea. There are so many fun things to do during the summertime, so having a list of things to get done leave us with a lot of fun summer activities to do. It's also quite hard to get out a lot during the winter time and it's not an idea I even entertain half of the time. Just thinking about getting out on snowy roads with two kids sounds like an awful idea. Which is why I will be looking for a lot of indoor activities once the winter rolls around. Anyway! I loved her idea so I made a list of things I would like to do during the summer while we have a lot of time and the weather is nice. Of course there are many days where it's just so dang humid, we don't even want to bother getting out. I mean, even if we went to an indoor activity, having to walk out into the humid air is awful enough to keep me home.

We have kind of a short list as my husband is currently taking classes towards his degree and we have one (manual) car that I can't drive. (Maybe that should go on my list- learn to drive a manual car!) However, once we complete our short list, I will find more things to add. I'm always finding new things to do through some local moms. We have this nice little group formed (thanks to one lovely lady who put the group together) and there are always tons of new ideas of things to do floating around in the group. (I actually put "host a play date" on my list so I can get to know more of these women.) We're also pretty frugal in our home, so when we can avoid spending money, we do. So I always try to add things that will be either free, or extremely inexpensive, but fun! So far we've done quite a few fun things.

Go to the Wonderlab- This was something I had been looking into for a really long time. I wanted to wait until I felt my little guy was old enough to enjoy it and get something out of it. We finally took him this summer and he had such a blast! We'll definitely be taking him back quite a few more times before the summer is over. He especially loved the little "bubble room" they had there. The kid is seriously obsessed with bubbles.

Go bowling- This is one of those things that was a hit or miss. Thanks (again) to my friend over at TheMamaBomb for posting about Kids Bowl Free, we were able to sign C up to bowl free all summer long. This included 2 free games every single day until the end of summer. It did not however, include shoe rental. Now we could have signed up for the family pass, which would have given us a pass for 4 adults to bowl under the same "rules" as the Kids Bowl Free, but we didn't think we'd go enough. It's a good thing we didn't, because we only went bowling once so far. For our 2.5 year old, one game at a time was enough. He was cranky half of the time and happy the other half. 
We didn't think he really enjoyed it, so we figured we wouldn't go back again. However, the next day all he wanted to do was go bowling. He even remembered that I had a green ball and his dad used an orange ball. So when he got up he got into his toys and gave me the green one and said "Mommy's turn" and would cheer for me when I "did it". I'm not even sure what kind of bowling we were doing, but he was having a blast. So I think we'll go back a couple more times.

Jumpin' Joeys- This is my little dudes favorite place! (Well one of them.) He just loves going to the bouncy house and bouncing around. The arcade is pretty freakin' cool for him as well. It can be hard to get him to leave once we're there. For just one child, this is pretty inexpensive and he can bounce around for as long as he'd like. This is great when we need to wear him out so he'll take a nap. 

Splash Pad- Oh my goodness! This is another one of our absolute favorite outdoor activities. We've gone quite a few times actually. He will run around like a crazy person playing in the water. He just loves water. Bath time is probably his favorite, so it makes sense that he would love the splash pad. We attempted to go to our pool at our apartment complex, but he's just too young and a little bit too crazy to take advantage of the pool. (I have a huge water fear, so it really stresses me out having him around the water.) So the splash pad is the perfect medium.

Parks- This kind of seems like a weird one to put on the list because it's the park. However, sometimes we can get so comfortable doing the same boring things, we forget to take advantage of some of our great parks we have around here. So far this summer we have been to at least 4 different parks in our area. He loves running around with other kids and always has a blast at the park, so I love taking him to different parks to play. Of course we have our favorite which we frequently visit, but going to different parks here and there can also be fun.
Library- So this is another strange one to have on the list, but like I said, sometimes we forget to take advantage of the simple, yet fun things we have to do around here. We've been to the library several times this summer. It's the perfect hangout when it's too hot to be outside and when C is getting to restless being stuck inside. We can check out new movies or books and let him play with other kids for however long he wants and he loves being there. 

Famers' Market- You would not believe the number of times I've planned to get to our local Farmers' Market only to have something come up. We finally did make it last Saturday and got an amazing haul of stuff. I actually plan to write a separate post dedicated to this, but it was a great time! We had fun walking around and C got some honey stick and blueberries that he really enjoyed eating. It was also nice being able to support out local farmers! (Shop local when you can!

I have several other things I have on my list that I'm determined to get done before the end of summer. Although, we're probably putting the zoo off for a cooler month. Not that it's been ridiculously hot this summer, we've actually had some amazing days, but we're also super busy with getting ready to move and my husband's finals coming up. So it's just more convenient to wait to go to the zoo. That's probably the one thing I'm looking forward to most though! Of course there are things we've done that I haven't put on my list as well. Sometimes we just like to do things spontaneously because sometimes, it's just more fun not to plan everything out. 

So tell me, do you have a list of things you want to get done during the summer? What about a bucket list? Tell me, what is something you've always wanted to do, but haven't yet? You should absolutely set a date and do whatever it is you want to do!

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

A Busy Life With Two Boys!

It's been two long months since I've last written a blog post. I even have a draft saved that I was working on the day before I went into labor and gave birth to our second son. Yep, we had another boy. We actually knew before giving birth we were having another boy, we just decided to tell very few people. Hopefully soon I can sit down and write his (and my oldest son's) birth story out, but for now, I just want to write about life with two boys. Our second son was born May 8th at 8:14 pm. We named him Casper Oliver! I think it has a good ring with Chester Arthur.
 I was seriously only in (active) labor for roughly 2 hours and only pushed a few times and he was out! 

Things have been crazy since he was born, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. The one night we stayed at the hospital, our oldest son got a pretty bad cut on his forehead from jumping around on the bed so he had to get glue on it. He now has a scar on the right side of his forehead that will make for an interesting story when he's a bit older. I've already had people asking if we're stopping with the two or if we're going to have more kids. I think this is the craziest question yet. Our second is only two months old and the adjustment from one to two kids hasn't been the easiest on anyone. I see some families going from one to two kids with ease, but for us, it just wasn't that simple. It was really hard on Chester.

 At first he pretended his brother didn't exist and refused to nurse with him especially if his foot happened to touch him. This was one of the hardest things. It took him forever to nurse for the first time after his brother was born and it broke my heart. I wasn't really ready for him to wean. Thinking back to that moment, I feel silly because he's nursing more and more now. It doesn't seem like there's an end coming to his nursing. Maybe when he goes to college or on his wedding day? Who knows. I will say that I don't need your comments about weaning him. It's not your problem. It's really not a problem at all.

I decided to hold off on potty training my toddler until after the baby was born because having so many changes happening around our home, I didn't think it was in his best interest to add something else on top of it. That changed yesterday when I took his diaper off to change him and he refused to have another put on. So I pulled his frog potty out of the bathroom, stuck it in the bedroom (where we were hanging out while baby C slept) and let him play video games while sitting on the potty. He had a couple small accidents on the floor, but has gone at least 3 times in the potty. I'm pretty excited and totally proud of him! So last night when I tried putting his pajama shirt on him and he requested his "creeper" (Minecraft) shirt, I figured, why the heck not. So we picked him up some "big boy" underwear. We let him pick it out and he picked Spider-Man, because Spider-Man is awesome! He had an accident in them and was so upset he started crying. I think I'm most worried about nighttime potty training since he's nursing a bunch at night still. Oh and we attempted the cloth trainers, but they're too much like a diaper for him that he just doesn't mind if he pees in them. So I'm sticking with naked time and "big boy" underwear.

I want to say that cloth diapering and babywearing a newborn are a little more difficult than I thought it was going to be. I'll be honest, I wasn't as thrilled about it as I thought I'd be and that makes me a little sad. I also kind of feel guilty. I have a beautiful stash of newborn diapers, but was just so annoyed a lot of the time with them. I guess it was because I forgot how often a newborn needs changed. I feel like the reason I wanted so many AIO newborn diapers was because they were so cute and covers and prefolds were so boring. The AIOs really didn't fit as long as I had hoped since baby C grew quickly! At 2 months he's already 16 pounds.

However I did like the snap down rise for the umbilical cord. That was pretty convenient. As for babywearing, I had 2 options. I have a ringsling and I have a Boba that has an infant carry you can do. I've never been a fan of wraps, so I didn't have one. (Although, now I'm wishing I had one for those beginning days.) I really just don't like my Boba so I didn't even attempt it. I managed to get the ringsling working for us up until he was heavy enough to put in the Ergo or the Tula. I'll be honest, while he was fresh out of the oven, I just carried him around everywhere instead of wearing him. I feel much more comfortable now that he's able to ride in the Ergo and Tula without  issues.

So what have these two months been like for us? Crazy! But I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love my boys and they bring me so much happiness. I look forward to blogging about our journey with these crazy kids and all the fun adventures we're going to have.
As most of you are probably very aware, World Breastfeeding Month is coming up in August. There are fun events (The Big Latch On) (or for us in Indiana we have Latch On Indiana) and of course I will be doing my breastfeeding series. It'll be fun talking writing about tandem nursing and the fact that I have now been nursing just about 3 years. Holy cow!
For now how about I just leave you with a few adorable pictures of the boys? Because everyone loves baby pictures!

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Confessions of A Pregnant Woman! (Part 2!)

I think an appropriate title for this one would be something like, "Yes I'm STILL Pregnant!" or maybe, "NO, I'm Not Having Contractions Today." The most popular questions I have been getting lately are as follows:

"Are you okay?" -Yes, I'm 
fine. I'm 39.2 weeks pregnant, I'm not super chatty because I'm exhausted and I'd rather take a nap than talk to you. Just being honest here.

"Are you having contractions?! You're rubbing your belly. Does it hurt?!" -Oh my freaking goodness. NO! I'm not having contractions, you would know if I was because I wouldn't be sitting here. I'd be on my way home to get more comfortable and prepare mentally for popping this baby out!

"Oh my gosh. You're still pregnant?" Wait, what? It's that obvious?! This isn't necessarily always a question, more so a statement usually. Either way, it's annoying. You see my huge belly so it's safe to assume I'm still pregnant and honestly just want to throat punch you right now.

"When are you going to have this baby? I'm ready!" I'm sorry, what? YOU'RE ready? This can be extremely insensitive and is just so annoying that I really, really want to throat punch you. (Yes, I'm at the angry part of pregnancy now.) I mean really though, you're telling a woman who is at the very end of her pregnancy, waiting to meet her sweet little baby that she's been housing for months that you're ready for baby to arrive. You're not the going through the pregnancy, labor or birth, so just don't say things like this.

"Let's have a baby!" While I understand when people say this, they don't mean it the way I've taken it. It's just really hard to take it any other way though. Like the above question and response, I'm the one who's pregnant and I'm the one going through labor and birth. This isn't a team event. The only people that are actually helping me out are the people I've selected to be present during labor and birth. Even then, they can't give birth for me. While they're there for support and love, I'm the one actually giving birth.

So at this point, I may smile and nod at you when you say some of these kinds of things or ask the same questions that are asked several times every single day, I really would just love to be rude and walk away. There are a few I don't mind asking questions. My doulas need updates, because they're on call. So they need to know if things are changing. I usually try to give them a daily update whether something is happening or not, but sometimes I forget and they ask. Which is totally fine with me, they need to know. 
I know that people who are close to me are excited about baby's arrival and I understand that. I just really hate so much attention and when you come across a pregnant woman, people can't help but give her tons of (unwanted) attention. I find random strangers in public stopping to ask me how much longer I have. I just hate answering this question so often. A woman stopped me the other day at the grocery store while I was trying to wrangle my cranky toddler into the shopping cart and asked how far along I was. I told her 39 weeks then she commented about how she was (I think she said) 22 weeks. I simply smiled and said, "It's exciting" and walked away. I was too exhausted to carry on any kind of conversation. I heard her friend comment something about me or my belly as they left. At this point I wouldn't mind staying at home until after baby gets here. It's exhausting to go out and even more exhausting to talk about being pregnant. 

So a couple things to keep in mind. If I'm rubbing my belly or holding onto it, it doesn't mean I'm having contractions. A couple things it could mean: The baby is kicking hard and at this point since baby is so big, it's really uncomfortable and might hurt a bit. It could also mean that I just ate, so now I'm stuffed, which is also uncomfortable since I'm already feeling giant! It could also just be that I enjoy rubbing my giant pregnant belly because as much as I complain about annoying things people say, I have been enjoying pregnancy. I might also just be thinking about how close I am to having this baby and I imagine holding such a tiny little human being in my arms. Then it reminds me that I might actually miss this pregnant belly at some point when my baby is getting bigger and growing out of clothing.
Also, if we're riding in the car together and you ask me if I'm okay and I respond yes, please don't ask me twenty more times or ask me if I'm sure. If I wasn't sure, I would have said no. I'm fine! It's just that riding in a car is not an easy task these days. The seat belt is hard to adjust to make sure I'm comfortable and just riding in the car is difficult. Taking turns and even accelerating is kind of hard on me. So just ignore me in the car unless I'm screaming at you that I'm having contractions.
One last complaint is the fact that so many people want to be alerted when I go into labor. People I don't know well or people I'm not even really friends with. Some people I haven't talked to in ages. If I haven't seen you in the last month or so, chances are I'm not going to have anyone text or call you. I'm not trying to broadcast my labor and birth. There are only a handful of people I want knowing because I don't want tons of visitors unexpectedly. If you're one of those who are just really excited, I get it. You can either text me or my husband (I might have one or two others you can text or call) and we'll let you know when we're up for visitors. Having a baby is a very intimate moment. I want only the closest people there and even afterwards, it's still an extremely special moment for those involved.

Here are a few things people have said lately that made me smile.
I've had a few friends comment on my belly picture telling me how beautiful it is. Obviously I don't want people to lie to me. If you don't think it's beautiful, don't say so. Just don't say anything at all. I was also told how great/lovely I look. Again, if it's a lie, don't say it. It's just really nice to hear that I still look great even though I'm housing another human being. I really do appreciate those comments and they really do make me smile even on a bad day. So if you have made a comment like this, I sincerely want to thank you. 

Alright, so I need to make a couple confessions, because that is after all the title of the post.

-When I say I'm hungry and want a snack, I don't mean some fruit or crackers. (Although I had some fruit earlier and it was delicious!) What I mean is go get me a burrito from Taco Belly because I'm not going to make it until dinner! That's what a snack means to me. Something smaller would be something to munch on. 

-While I'm not nervous about labor and birth, I'm a little nervous about having two kids! I wrote about this previously, but I think it'll be an adjustment going from one to two kids. 

-I can't wait to have our little one in our arms, but I'm totally okay with going "over" my due date. Honestly, this is because I really, really want to go to the GCDC. I know, a silly reason, but it's an honest one. I want to go get an awesome swag bag, join in breaking the record and hanging out with other cloth diapering mamas! It's what makes me happy, so whatever. No judging on how lame I am! 

-The weather has been absolutely beautiful lately, but since I don't have much energy because I can't move around as easily as everyone else, I prefer to stay inside (usually in bed) watching a movie or playing online. 

-Sometimes I use pregnancy as an excuse to get out of things I don't want to do. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's done it. 

Just a final thought here, please stop telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing. It doesn't help anything and just makes me irate. I will continue to pick up (and yes nurse- because I get crap for this all the time) my toddler. There is nothing wrong with either of them.. I know my limits and I never push myself. I think it's worse when I get "advice" on what to or not to do from people I don't even know. It's super obnoxious and weird. If I don't know you, just leave me alone. I'm going to end this on a positive note. The other day I walked into the kitchen and realized my husband had done all the dishes. This made me so happy because the kitchen is my least favorite room to clean. He's been super helpful even when I've just been annoying and I love him so much for all he does for me!

I hope I don't offend my family/friends who might have said/done some of these things. I do really love you all.

Question time!
What is/are the most annoying thing/things people said to you when you were pregnant? How did you handle them?

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Confessions of A Pregnant Woman! (Part One)

I really wanted to title this something along the lines of, "confessions of a pregnant woman who's about to give birth any day now and is annoyed with everything and everyone" but that doesn't sound as good as the one I went with. Alright, so I'm not annoyed with everyone or even everything, but most people. I feel like at the beginning of each day I should post this:

Along with some pretty standard questions that I seem to always get. Let's run through some questions I've been getting from strangers, family, neighbors and anyone who sees I've "swallowed a basket ball".

-Do you know what you're having? Yes, it's a baby. At least I hope it is. It was looking like an alien there for a while. We'll see when I give birth though.

-Have you thought of a name? No, we thought about just naming the alien after one random person in the room.

-Oh my gosh, you're about to pop! OR You're so huge! How much longer? I've decided to stay pregnant forever.

-You look like you just swallowed a basketball. Well, that seems quite impossible, now doesn't it?

-Are you having contractions?! (Usually asked by someone close because I'm holding my belly.) No, I just ate so I'm a little gassy and might just need to fart. So you should probably not stand to close. Not to mention, this kid is dragging limbs across my belly, kicking me in the lungs/ribs so I'm just a tad uncomfortable right now.

I also constantly get questions about labor and birth that drive me insane. Questions about what we plan on doing with our son while all that's going on and unsolicited advice about what we should be doing. Yes, I'm still nursing my 2 year old. He still wants to nurse and I'm comfortable (for the most part) with him doing so. Please stop telling me wean him because it really makes me want to slap you. Our son will be present during labor and the birth as he is part of our family and I want him involved. No, this will not traumatize him. He's been very much apart of this pregnancy from day one, going to appointments and whatnot. We've even watched a few homebirth videos together. He's excited for his baby to get here. Of course I'm concerned about jealousy issues, which is why I've had him part of this whole pregnancy from the get go. Please stop telling me how my son is going to react to the new baby. The two people who know him best are his parents. Not anyone else. 
Stop commenting on my size. Seriously, it's extremely rude. I understand that for a tiny figured woman I look ginormous. I really do. It's still not acceptable to comment on. It's also extremely rude to comment on my eating habits or suggest I'm not eating as much (or as little) as I should be. I eat when I'm hungry, which is pretty often, just ask my husband. I think he's gaining as much weight as I have. I have actually gained less this pregnancy than I did with C's. Not because I'm not eating how I "should" but because I eat differently. Each pregnancy is different so comparing the two and making judgement because I'm "not taking care of myself" is just ignorant. I hate to sound so mean in this post, but I'm at the point in pregnancy (39 weeks you guys!) that I really just don't have patience and I can't just always smile and nod when people get on my nerves. I should note that I have no issues discussing certain things with close friends and family. Most of the time anyway.
Now I want to get a few confessions off my chest. This will be the fun part that not many pregnant women talk about because a lot of it is probably embarrassing. Heck, I don't care. I'm 39 weeks and about to give birth any day now. 

-I rarely shave my legs, but I do occasionally get to them because I don't want crazy hairy legs when I give birth. I'm pretty sure my husband has commented on several occasions about my crazy hair. It's not that I can't shave this far in pregnancy, because I totally can. It's just a bit tiring so I do it when I get around to it. Which is probably once a month!

-If I could stay in bed all day, I would. Partly because I'm extremely uncomfortable lugging this huge belly around, but also because I'm lazy. Making a human is exhausting. While nothing is medically or physically "wrong" with me, I just get tired easily and would prefer to stay in bed all day in my pajamas.

-I say I don't want help with certain things, but when someone offers I rarely ever decline. For example, my sister has come over to help me with 2 loads of diaper laundry that I just refused to fold. She's also helped clean up here and there because I'm just super lazy and don't feel like doing it. She's been pretty awesome.

-I wouldn't mind going one day without discussing pregnancy. My husband reminded me it's just the first thing that comes up because it's obvious and noticeable. This is very much true, but does not stop me from wanting to throat punch people because I'm just annoyed with all the questions and smart remarks.

-Sometimes I avoid seeing certain people because I know they're going to jump in my bubble and rub all over my belly like when they see a puppy on the street. I really wonder how many of those people run up to a guy with a beer gut and rub on his lovely belly.

-I always have the most hilarious comebacks to annoying/stupid questions that I constantly get, but I'm too nice to actually say them to someone in person. A lady at the grocery store asked what I'm having and of course I wanted to use the awesome response above. However, I just smiled and answered her. I'm just not very confrontational and have a hard time actually being "mean" when I really wish I could.

-I eat and drink what I crave. There will be times I have Taco Bell twice in one week because it's delicious and I want it. I drink Pepsi because I crave it so bad. This doesn't mean I'm completely unhealthy. I try to drink at least 1-2 cups for every one Pepsi I drink. (It doesn't always happen though.) Oh and *gasp* my Pepsi usually has caffeine. I just know not to overdo it and drink water to stay hydrated.

-I'm way too oversensitive about certain things and I know it. But whatever!

I figured I'd add a recent belly shot for you all. This is me practicing with my new ringsling (which is gorgeous in person). I actually won it (I'll write up a review when squishy gets here) from Willow Tree Ring Slings!

So that's basically it for this round. I love being pregnant, I really do, but people just get weird and annoying when it comes to pregnant women. To change the tone a bit, I'm loving having my two doulas for this pregnancy! They really have made this journey less stressful. I'm not nervous about labor or birth at all and I'd like to give the two of them credit for this. The one thing I'm nervous about is having 2 kids now instead of just one. It'll be quite a journey, but I'm ready! I want to take a moment to thank my awesome husband for listening to me always complain about what people say, because I know he just doesn't care anymore, but he pretends to listen. Of course I want to thank my doulas for being absolutely amazing and wonderful! This birth is going to rock because of them! I also want to thank my sister because she brings me Pepsi when I have none and helps me do things because I'm lazy. She's just that awesome. 
Here's hoping I can get a few more of these posts in before the baby gets here, but like I admitted several times, I'm lazy. So we'll see how well that goes. For now, I'm going to go lay in bed and hopefully fall back to sleep. For some reason I thought it was a good idea to get up at 6 am (after only 4 hours of sleep) so I could do laundry and write this post. Also, have a very happy Easter (if you celebrate)! Eat tons of candy and delicious food and enjoy that family time.